You ask yourself.....some other's seem to expect you to be getting back to 'normal'....So when will you get back to 'normal'??? Well you WON'T. You'll never be the same again.
Please don't try and pressure yourself into being the same as you were before - you aren't the same and this experience of surviving the loss of the one you love will change you forever.
This isn't all bad though. You appreciate things you may have missed or taken for granted before, your priorities in life have changed. Once you have dragged yourself through those early dark days you will emerge a different, stronger person than you could ever have believed.
I'm not saying it's not bad that your love has died, that will never be ok. But you will get through and learn to live again - you find a way of taking them forward with you. You sit there one day and have a sudden realisation that you are different now, you are a survivor of the most awful thing that could ever happen to you.
I've also found that my 'friends' have changed. The ones that I thought were my closest before the accident have mostly dissappeared....never to return. Others that I believed that I wasn't as close to have been there through each low and hour of need.
Then I have my new friends, mostly MW's who have been through the same loss. Some that were going through it all at the same time I have a connection to that is unbelievably strong. Others that were further down the road have been an inspiration and an overwhelming support. Out of this shared experience of something so heartwrenchingly painful something new and special has emerged in these friendships. I can confidently say that all that I class as my friends today are 'true' ones and I am blessed to have them in my life.
So hang in there, take each day as it comes and hold on to the fact that you will like the new you when you emerge into the light.
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